Sacred Ground. Common Ground.

Twenty-five years ago, Oklahoma City faced an act of domestic terrorism, which killed 168 innocent men, women and children. It was a time of confusion, fear and heartbreak. To get through this devastating time, people clung to one emotion – hope.

It was hope that gave family members, survivors, first responders and community members the strength to come together within months of the bombing to begin conversations on how to design a place where those who were killed, those who survived and those changed forever would always be remembered.

The conversations were not always easy. Those involved in the Memorial process had to learn to listen to other perspectives, share their personal opinions and practice civility all while working through their own grief and vulnerability. The countless hours of conversations and unwavering dedication of the 350-person task force was the creation of the Oklahoma City National Memorial & Museum.

The Memorial would like to extend their deepest gratitude to all those who came together in 1995 and give the gift of Better Conversations to the community. With the uncertainty of what is happening in our world today, it is more critical than ever to stay connected and work through challenging issues. Use the online tools below to connect with others and give and receive support during these difficult times.

The Memorial created Better Conversations as a way for individuals to come together and discuss sensitive or controversial topics in a civil manner. Materials were developed to share with clubs, schools, churches, and others interested in hosting discussions.

Better Conversations Online Series

The Memorial Museum has hosted Better Conversations online to help reach as many people as possible. Below you’ll find the latest video in this series. Click here to see the entire playlist.


Learn skills on how to engage in civil conversations by joining one of our Better Conversations sessions offered throughout the year. Download the following cards to use as conversation starters and discuss with your friends, family and co-workers.

Capitol Insurrection Educator Resources

Let On Being’s Grounding Virtues serve as the foundation for your conversations.

Better Conversations Poster

Educators! Start your year with everyone getting to know one another better by using this specially designed Better Conversations Back to School Edition deck of cards in your classroom.

Back to School Conversation Cards

Use the provided questions on the cards as conversation starter.

Better Conversations Cards

Download the cards.

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